A Loving Approach to Dog Training

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A Loving Approach to Dog Training

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Tamar Geller

A veteran dog owner knows some things, like that the neighborhood dog park has a delicate system of social politics, that hell hath no fury like a bored husky, and that every dog has its own set of funny habits, favorite spots to sit, and difficult behaviors. That last bit is where Tamar Geller comes in. Geller, a dog trainer and the founder of The Loved Dog, runs a training session by focusing less on commands and more on making sure every pup has what they need to feel loved, safe, and engaged.

At the center of Geller’s method? Communication. She wants you to sit down with your dog and ask: “What can I do for you?” While your dog may not be able to express themselves with words, you can gather a lot of intel on what makes them comfortable by presenting them with options, paying attention to their natural choices, and providing what best suits both of your needs.

A Q&A with Tamar Geller

Q

What are dogs’ basic needs to feel comfortable, safe, and happy?

A

The first thing that you want to understand is the core needs of dogs. I’m not talking about the basics of food and shelter. I’m borrowing Tony Robbins’s concept of people’s core needs and applying them to dogs.

  1. 1. Certainty. In other words, safety and predictability. People like it, dogs like it. Routine is a good thing.

  2. 2. Variety. Too much predictability and dogs get bored. And when a dog is bored, they’re going to give themselves projects like digging, barking, and chewing to alleviate the boredom. So you want to answer the question, “How can I make room within certainty for variety.” You might take your walk at the same time every day but take different routes. Or you’ll have a variety of toys. Or you’ll buy them the same brand of food but give them different flavors: beef, lamb, chicken, salmon. Teach them they will get fed but not on the minute; they might eat at different times or sometimes from the bowl and sometimes not, or maybe they have to play hide and seek to find their dinner. Don’t force them into anything.

  3. 3. Love and belonging. You want the dog to feel love and belonging. That they are part of your family. You want them to know, “I care about you. You’re very important to me. You fit in here.”

  4. 4. Significance. Let your dog feel that they’re brilliant. I want you to identify what your dog is naturally good at, acknowledge it, and help the dog feel special. It’s like when your kid brings home a drawing from preschool and you say it’s amazing and hang it on the refrigerator. Turn whatever natural habits they have into skills.

  5. 5. Growth. In order for a dog to thrive, they need to be learning and growing. Teaching them language is a great way for them to grow. So when they’re doing something or going somewhere or seeing someone, give that thing a word. Name it the way you would show a toddler a color and name it yellow, green, red. Do “drink” when they’re drinking, “couch” when they’re going on the couch, “eat” when they are eating, “leash” when you put the leash on them for a walk. Start teaching your friends’ names and their friends’ names and their favorite places. When you give them words, you’re creating an environment of growth in which the dog can better understand you when you’re talking to them.


Q

What’s the best way to arrange your home for your dog’s comfort?

A

Think through the little details that make us comfortable or uncomfortable.

Give them a place. I really like dogs to be on our couches and on our beds with us. For me, that’s part of treating them as family and not as an animal. But if people don’t like for the dog to be on couches and beds or if the dog is moving too much or taking up too much space for it to be comfortable, I teach people to give the dog a throw or towel you can put on the couch or bed and teach them it’s theirs. It’s not about ownership but about habit. The same way we as people have a spot on the couch or a chair at the dinner table, we want our dogs to have an area that is comfortable for them. Dogs are social animals, so keep this spot close to where you are.

Make sure your dogs aren’t uncomfortably hot or cold. I love my house to be very, very cool, so I keep the air conditioner on. But sometimes when I call my dog to hug her, I feel her ears to check if she’s cold. A dog’s body doesn’t give you that information; you have to feel their ears. If her ears are cold, I cover her up in a warm blanket. You want to think about whether your preferred temperature is comfortable for your dog. And if it’s not, can you put the fan on them to cool them off? Can you cover them with a blanket if they’re too cold?

Choose cleaning supplies, fertilizers, and fragrances carefully. The dogs are barefoot walking on our floors, and they lick their feet. The cleaners you use on your floor can end up in their belly and potentially cause problems. It’s the same thing with fertilizers in your yard and anything that you use to kill bugs. Candles and diffusers can be an issue, too. People use scent to cover up the smell of their dogs, but many fragrances and essential oils may be unsafe for dogs. Make sure what you’re using is healthy for them.


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Q

How do you figure out your dog’s unique likes and interests?

A

Dogs have a love language just as we do. Some dogs’ love language might be play, play, play, and other dogs’ love language might be food. Maybe it’s being on the couch or the bed with you. Maybe it’s being the only dog in your life, and they don’t want to play with other dogs or interact with other dogs.

When I’m meeting a dog, I get to know them and start to fill in their likes and dislikes as if they were a person who could fill out a questionnaire. Do you like toys? Yes. Okay, what kind of toys do you like? Plush toys, chew toys, pull toys, or throwing toys? From the plush toys, which one do you like? The one with the squeaker? The one with the longest legs? What toy has the highest value to you? Which are less exciting? You can do this with food, treats, activities, friends.

One of the mistakes that I see people make is they assume what a dog should like. They’re throwing a ball for the dog to fetch and he doesn’t bring it back, or once he brings it back, he doesn’t release it. He prefers to play tug of war with it. And then the person tries to push fetch. When you’re creating a relationship with someone, you want to see what they like. You’re not going to take somebody for sushi if you know they don’t like it and then blame them for not liking the food. So when your dog comes and wants to play tug of war and not fetch, don’t make them wrong for that.


Q

How do you minimize negative feelings like stress and anxiety and loneliness?

A

I want people to think about what brings their dog pleasure and what brings them pain. When I’m talking about pain, I’m talking about emotional pain.

If you see your dog stressed out when you’re about to leave the house—when you put on your shoes, when you put on your perfume, anything that signals you’re going to leave—I want you to start to do other things to help your dog associate your leaving the house with something pleasurable. I want them to understand that moment beyond “Oh, shucks, the house is going to be quiet. Nobody going to be here.” You’re going to turn that around. For example, before you leave, you might have your dog sit and stay while you set up a treasure hunt with treats or toys around your home. And as you close the front door behind you when you leave, release them to go search. You set up your routine so that the only time they get to play treasure hunt is when you leave the house. You condition them to look forward to your leaving because they get to play their special game. They stop thinking of your leaving the house as leaving them behind and instead associate it with the anticipation of finding their treasure.

This technique is going to be unique to every dog. You can apply it to any stressful event—just be sure to use a reward that your dog really loves.


Tamar Geller is a behavior expert and the founder of The Loved Dog. Her training method is based on teaching dogs essential life skills, like making mindful decisions as part of a human family, and teaching their human parents connection over obedience. Geller is the founder of Operation Heroes and Hounds, which connects veterans with shelter dogs, and Another Chance for Love, which does the same for juvenile prisoners. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller The Loved Dog and 30 Days to a Well-Mannered Dog.


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